Personality: The energy vampire
Dr Nicola Davies
Top psychologist Dr Nicola Davies introduces the energy vampire; spot them before they sink their fangs into you
Meet the energy vampire, the person who feeds off other people’s life force because they are incapable of creating and sustaining their own.
These people are experts in drawing you into their habitual dramas, negativity, hostile rages, complaints, and sad stories. Once this happens, they can leave you feeling drained, tired, exhausted, confused, and on edge for days. Although the energy vampire comes in different disguises, here are some of their key identifying traits:
How Do I Deal With One?
If you are prone to emotional upsets in your personal life, then it is advised that you do make a conscious effort to have minimal contact with this personality type.Otherwise, work on improving your own self-confidence so that you can be more assertive when dealing with such people. Remind yourself that these people detest life in general, and most of their discontent isn’t directed at you personally. Another technique is to offer your assistance before they ask for it; your generosity is likely to catch them off-guard and make them less defensive.
What If I’m One?
You might be an energy vampire if you consistently do any of the following:
How Can I Stop?
Learn to observe your thoughts and feelings, and take notice of these without resisting or fighting them.Gradually you will learn that you do have a choice in how to respond to your own inner compulsions and negativity. In turn, you will start to catch yourself looking for the worst in a situation or a person; once you are aware that you are doing this, you are in control to redirect your thinking. Also observe the reactions of others, who might looked tired in your company or even start to avoid you. Ask for feedback about your actions and attitude, and learn to listen without judgement, criticism or self-blame.
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